Thursday, November 13, 2008

True Gratitude!

One of my favorite things about blogging are the other incredible bloggers you meet. I participate in Wordless Wednesday and Photo Hunt Saturdays, and through these forums have met bloggers from every country and walk of life. One of my favorites is Terry, from the blog Notes From One Mom. We "met" through our comments on each others photos. Terry, having read my profile, shared with me that she is the caregiver to her husband, who has had a stroke, as well as a patient with a chronic illness herself. I love her writing and her upbeat, positive outlook on life. She had a post on her site about her husband that she had written that touched me so deeply, I asked her permission to share it on my blog. I think it is such a powerful expression of love and understanding, and it certainly made me realize that despite our illness, the ones who really know and love us, see the whole person--not the illness or disability. I hope you will find it as beautiful as I did, and perhaps you will be inspired to write to someone in your life who you are thankful for.

Without further ado, here is the entire post:

Thursday, November 6, 2008
Thursday Thirteen: My Husband, My Hero

This is the month when giving thanks is on our minds. Having almost lost my husband more than once in the past thirteen years, I am grateful for every single day that he is still with us. He is my hero and here are my top thirteen reasons why.

1. He is a survivor. He survived rheumatic fever as an infant, polio as a child, 3 heart attacks before he was 50 and a stroke before he was 60.

2. He doesn't know the meaning of "can't." In between his childhood ailments and his adult illnesses, he played baseball, hockey, college and professional football. He even ran the Marine Corp Marathon when he was 40.

3. He never, never gives up. No matter what life throws at him, he is always positive. His first words after his stroke were, "I love you." His next sentence, although it took 3 days to compose and several minutes and some coaching to voice, was, "It's going to be alright."

4. He is a funny man. He loves to make people laugh. Nowadays he doesn't tell the jokes but he will still appreciate and laugh at yours.

5. I came into his life as a package deal, complete with three sons. He has loved them, helped to raise them, disciplined them, guided them, supported them in the good times and not so good times, and has always, always been there for them.

6. He is driven. Probably a little too driven at times, but that determination is now what enables him to deal with his disabilities on a daily basis. It's what got him walking after his stroke. It's what got him out on the golf course again with a one-arm golf swing. It's what gets him going every single day.

7. He is a supporter to those around him, whether it be me, our children, friends or neighbors, he always encourages those around him to succeed.

8. Not a day goes by, probably not more than a couple of hours, that he doesn't tell me how much he loves me and appreciates me.

9. He is the designated dishwasher loader/unloader in the family. And if I ask him, he will also do floors :)

10. Since his stroke in 2004, he had tried unsuccessfully to read a book - until this summer when he read the New Testament. He worked at it every single day and was as excited as a child who had mastered riding his first bicycle when he finished.

11. He loves life. Although much different than it was or than he expected it would ever be, he is content.

12. He notices and appreciates the details. Coffee and freshly baked muffins, a drive around the island, a walk on the beach, he takes pleasure in the small things that others often take for granted.

13. Last, but not in any way the least, he loves the Lord. And he knows the Lord loves him.

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Leslie said...

Thanks for all of your comments. I haven't quite been able to keep up with them, but know that they are appreciated. As far as reading goes, I'm pretty open to anything, though I like fiction (genreal literature), non-fiction, and romances best. I have a stack of "to read" books, but none of them are too appealing at the moment!

Beth@Pages of Our Life said...

Very touching husband was a DOA and was never suppose to walk again. He is considered an incomplete quad.

Daisy said...

The love for her husband shines through her lovely words.

Renee said...

This is so beautiful, Maureen. I am so glad you shared it with us. It seems that whenever we start to put our nose in our belly buttons and start the poor me mantra, we are reminded that life is to be enjoyed no matter what our circumstances. That what we are dealing with may not be so challenging....That if "they" can do it, so can we. I really needed this today, and I am sure others do too.

Maureen Hayes said...

Thank you all for your lovely comments. I can see that Terry touched you all, as she did me, with her love for her husband despite the struggles of illness. It makes your day to read something this inspiring and I am grateful to Terry for sharing it with us!


Anonymous said...

What a wonderful love story!Both parties are blessed in so many ways and are blessings to one another.

Ailurophile said...

This was indeed very inspiring. The best part of blogging is indeed meeting new friends and reading positive stuff such as this..

Jeanne said...


This was such a beautiful story!! Thank you for re-posting it!

I went to the site you got it from and enjoyed looking at that too. :)

Thank you for sharing this positive story.


Anonymous said...

What a beautiful love! Kerry

Anonymous said...

What a wake up call for me as we get closer to Thanksgiving. Terry's one post has made me want to subscribe to her blog but more importantly take a look at the priories in my life now. Thank you for sharing this.